Sociologists and journalists have advanced bizarre theories attempting to explain men's increasing reluctance to marry. They have blamed men's 'perpetual immaturity, internet porn, misogyny and even video games. None of these theories are even remotely accurate. The reason men are skipping marriage is because feminists have turned the institution into a weapon of abuse against husbands.
A great example of matrimony being used as a weapon was recently published by New York Magazine. Their article titled "Women Are Now Cheating As Much As Men But With Fewer Consequences" insinuates wives cheat because of their husbands failings. The magazine states the internet has made finding a "better" partner easier. They quote human behavior researcher Helen Fisher, of the Kinsey Institute:
“But it is about choice. Women now are more aware of the alternatives to monogamy and more inclined to demand to have all their needs met. That’s because happiness is such an important part of marriage. Fewer women are marrying out of need; instead, they’re marrying to please themselves. But that also means when they’re dissatisfied with something they feel justified to go elsewhere.”Thus, its a husband's fault his wife is dissatisfied and therefore cheating. In reality, all Fisher's statements prove is that cheating wives are self centered jerks. They expect catering 24/7 but are unwilling to offer the same treatment in return.
NY Magazine also insinuated husbands will get past being cheated on and abused. The article states:
Such was the case with a guy friend whose wife has been having an affair with “some douche bag down the street” while he makes lunches and cleans the kids’ bunnies’ cages, waiting for “the phase to pass” and their marriage to carry on. Or with Randy, a 39-year-old father of four in Idaho who decided to stay with his wife of 17 years after she slept with her business-development coach. “I’m in it for the long haul, till we’re old and gray and sitting on the front porch,” he says, wistfully. “It’s the biggest thing in any marriage to have that trust violated, but I’m not perfect either. And I know she still wants to be here with me.”The magazine then claimed Los Angeles matrimony therapist Talia Wagner has
"seen a significant rise in the number of couples who come in following a wife’s affair, and that it’s usually the man who wants to try to keep the marriage intact"Wagner said “For some [husbands], it’s easier. Even in egalitarian marriages, the women are the project managers. But men these days seem to have more to lose emotionally.”
The article tacitly concluded cheating wives shouldn’t be condemned similar to cheating husbands. NY Magazine states:
"women who cheat are less likely to feel condemned by their social group." For example when working wife Lauren told her husband she was cheating, “she thought he might keep it to himself. Wasn’t he humiliated? Instead, he told everyone. “He behaved the way a ‘woman’ would be expected to, telling everyone how horrible I was,” she says. That didn’t mean he didn’t want to try to work it out. Or that she felt especially guilty. “I think if he’d been the one who cheated, he’d have been treated a lot worse,” she says. Instead, she says, most of her friends seemed to sympathize. She’d just done what she needed to do. “Women are more forgiven because it’s the struggle of being a certain type of powerful woman,” she says. “You were a different person when you began the relationship. And he’s just not."Despite NY Magazine's claims to the contrary, a cheating wife IS THE SAME as a cheating husband. Only a female chauvinist twit (ie a feminist) would claim elsewise. This type of sexist writing explains why men are skipping marriage in ever greater numbers. Why should a man become involved in an institution that blames a wife's cheating on her husband?
New York Magizane isn’t the only organization promoting husband abuse. An article titled "The Back-Up Plan: Half Of Women In Relationships Have 'Plan B' Man They Can Run Away With" appeared on the health website Medical Daily, the British news site DailyMail and numerous other websites. The article states:
"half of women who are married or in relationships have a Plan B man on standby. And married women are more likely [to] have a Plan B in the background than those who are just in a relationship."
"They [women] understand that anything can happen and are ensuring they have a solid back-up plan should things go sour with their current man,”
"These survey results suggest men should make sure they are attentive to their women’s needs, even when the relationship is on the rocks"
Lastly, a DirecTV commercial promotes the 'Plan B' theme for wives. The ad, featuring Bon Jovi, publicizes DirecTV's program recording capabilities by showing a husband being replaced by his wife's past boyfriend. The company states their service gives subscribers the ability to go back in time to record programs and change their life.
Both articles as well as the commercial emphasize the feminist viewpoint that a marriage's health depends on a husband catering to his wife. The wife contributes very little in return. She is encouraged to ignore and abuse her husband. No major media outlets nor health sites nor commercials promote similar abuse against wives.
After viewing these feminist oriented articles and ads, single men realize becoming a husband is a waste of time. Its the equivalent of throwing your life away. Why should a man become involved in an institution where all cheating is his fault and he is replaced by a 'plan B' sleazeball whenever his self-centered wife believes she is not being acquiesced? Marriage is increasingly avoided. The better deal is remaining single and dating a series of different women. Additionally, a single man can join a hiking, biking, swimming or any other type of club without having a worthless wife such as "Lauren" dragging him down.
