Women Are More Controlling Than Men In Relationships

A recent British study concluded females are more prone than males to be controlling and aggressive in relationships.

Psychologists at the University of Cumbria questioned 706 young women and 398 young men about their behavior in relationships.  They were asked about their physical aggression and controlling behavior toward sexual partners and friends. The psychologists discovered women were more likely to be  verbally and physically aggressive toward men than vice versa. Women were also shown to engage in greater levels of controlling behavior than men. This type of behavior is understood by psychologists to be a predictor of physical aggression in both sexes. The findings also revealed just as many females as males could be classified as abusive.

Lead researcher, Dr Elizabeth Bates said "This study found that women demonstrated a desire to control their partners and were more likely to use physical aggression than men." She also stated ‘"The stereotypical popular view is still one of dominant control by men. That does occur but research over the last ten to 15 years has highlighted the fact that women are controlling and aggressive in relationships too.’"

Previous studies, particularly in feminist America, explained controlling behavior in relationships as male violence towards women arising from patriarchal values. The British study shatters that feminist myth.  Dr Bates stated "This [study] suggests that IPV [intimate partner violence] may not be motivated by patriarchal values and needs to be studied within the context of other forms of aggression, which has potential implications for interventions."

Dr Bates' last statement shakes the very foundation of feminism. Her statement means that rather than judging people on the basis of their gender they should be judged on the basis of their actions.

In America, this would require a rethinking of institutions such as domestic abuse shelters and the family court system. These entities currently follow feminist philosophical guidelines. They judge people on the basis of feminist gender stereotypes. Thus, men are denied access to domestic abuse shelters because they are seen as violent rapists. Conversely, women are viewed as good & virtuous. Men are also denied equality in the family court system because courts believe any marital problems are the husband's fault. Wives are viewed as innocent. Additionally, popular women's websites such as Lulu operate on feminist principles. Lulu's creators, Alison Schwartz & Alexandra Chong, believe only males cause relationship problems.  Their website's philosophy is only males act selfish or violent. Females are seen as honest, selfless and righteous. Thus, the website allows dating  reviews only of men. Schwartz and Chong deem the rating of women as unnecessary since female characteristics are all good.

The feminist idea of all women being benevolent and selfless is obsolete. The British relationship study shows feminist gender stereotypes were based on sexism not scientific fact. People should be judged on the basis of their actions not gender.